THE HOPES AND DREAMS OF A 20 YEAR OLD

Cardigan/LaLa Berlin, Turtleneck/Zadig&Voltaire, Pants/Zara, Bag/Givenchy, Sunnies/Celine, Sneakers/Nike

When I was 4 years old, I wanted to be a Police or a Fireman when I grow old. Behind this might be the fact that I got along better with boys than girls in Daycare, haha. 

But since then, I’ve had no clue what so ever what I want to make out of myself. Or perhaps that’s wrong said; I’ve had directions I wish to go towards, but no concrete goal to strive for. In some way, I’ve always been a little envious of people who’ve known their path beforehand since their teens. It definitely would’ve made a soother sail. But, I’m definitely not regretting finding mine out by trial and error. Every bump on the road adds up to the life experience and brings something new to the picture! 

 

So what are my hopes and dreams for the future at the moment being?

 

Oh how I’ve always liked that John Lennon quote when he was asked what he wants to become as an adult and he simply answered ”happy”. Yes, I want to be happy. I want to feel fulfilled, to feel like whatever I’m doing has a purpose.

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In some way, I want to be able to add on the good, not on the bad. I wouldn’t wish to be in such profession which creates success without considering the costs. I wish to create, build, generate. Not to tear down or demolish.

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I hope to have a family. Before I turned 19, I didn’t see children as a necessary part of my future. But oh have the tables turned! I deeply wish to be a mother, and a wife some day. Creating our own happy bubble where I can guard over my family with the fierceness of a mother lion. See my kids grow, see my husband get old beside me. Cheesy, huh?

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I wish to never stop looking after my own well being. In order to bring happiness and content into other’s lives, it’s crucial to be responsible for ones own well being and happiness. I don’t wish to become ignorant over my own issues, or afraid of dealing with them. Both physically and mentally.

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I hope I won’t stop questioning and critically reflecting on things and values around me. Is something right just because it’s the current consensus of the society, or is it right because it actually is right? Values and norms change over centuries (as we well have noticed). Which injustices are accepted today, but shouldn’t be?

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I wish to see and learn as much about the world as I just possibly can. I want to visit places that make me wow, and understand why our surroundings look like they do. I want to learn about human behavior and answer the question ”why”. I don’t want to become too comfortable to not keep on moving forwards.

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I hope I won’t ever become bitter. Because that simplifies the mind into a negative circle, and eats away all the brightness and happiness life has to offer.

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But as a 20 year old, what do I know. How would the list look like in my 30’s, 40’s, or 60’s? If I’m even around any longer? All we can do is reflect on things from our situatedness in the present – using the knowledge we now have. These are the dreams and hopes the current me holds for the future. As John Lennon put it: I want to be happy. Above is the way I know how.

Hertta

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5x FALSE BEAUTY BELIEFS WE ARE BEING TAUGHT

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Good Morning!

All of us, at least the ladies, have probably heard some sort of universal guidelines considering beauty & style in their lives. These are usually culturally situated, telling us what is (in)appropriate to wear. Or do. ”Are you sure you should be going out in that?”. Often, but not always do these conceptions something to do with age, weight, sex or socioeconomic class. Here are the main ones I’ve been taught; is there something we can learn from them, or is everything just dinosaur advice?

  1. You’re too young or too old to use ____.

    What? Consensual adults are in my eyes fairly free to put on whatever floats their boat. Why would one need to give up on their style after turning x? Or, getting told that they look old before their age, when putting on more formal wear with a bunch of layers? I think some guidelines are useful, no matter the age; such as when revealing a lot on the top, use a covering bottom, and vice versa. But there should be no individual items that are age restricted. Period. Dress for your body type, your personality, and have some common sense doing it; not for your age.

  2. Wear only a maximum of 3 colors per outfit.

    As I can see the reasoning behind this one, it feels very restricting and stiff. In office wear for example it might be good to consider not showing up to customer meetings as a christmas tree, but when it comes to street style, if it works, don’t count the colors! Having multicolor outfit with one main color as a combining factor is actually very hot.

  3. Men like it if you wear red.

    Or, the boys are not going to like you if you wear only baggy or weird clothes. ”Men don’t like culottes” and ”Boys certainly won’t understand oversized coats” are both sentences I’ve heard lately. The whole ideology of women dressing up for men is utter nonsense, and shows how biased our thinking behind gendered subjects is. The hot question is, if I like wearing red, does it suit me, and how it fits my mood. Even as women what we need to stop is telling each other with all seriousness that ”are you sure now darling, remember that men don’t like UGGs”.

  4. Eye bags are chanel

    In the contemporary Western society, being a productive, universal genius is what we all should be right now. Handling every form of social media, combined with a perfect career, relationship, exercise routine, diet and a visiting the family every few months is the trend. We’re taught that in order to be accepted, we should always be busy, developing, becoming ”better versions of ourselves”. Hertta 2.0. This leads to the feeling of unfulfillment, of never being enough. ”Most successful of CEOs sleep some 6 hours a night and wake up at 5” – sort of thinking is suited to make one feel bad for snoozing until 9. Don’t get me wrong here. I absolutely advocate personal development, but one should do that in their own terms, in areas important to oneself.

  5. A good outfit can change your life.

    Looking at you, Cinderella! I have to admit, I as well have bought dresses ”only for the evening”. But in the inferno of consumption we live in, everything around us signals that buying is the key. New is always better. But it’s not. The rush one gets from shopping lasts only a fraction of time; and won’t increase the quality of your life in any way in the long run.

Just some Monday morning thoughts. A huge hug everyone, you can do this week!

Hertta

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